Don’t let your ideas, your facts, your righteousness disconnect you from each other.
We’re all in this together.
Don’t neglect what you’re sure of. Share it.
The key is to stay connected while you share.
Listen to yourself, listen to each other. Listen more deeply than the words and ideas.
Let yourself experience whatever it is you’re experiencing. Don’t try to numb it, push it down, or away.
Just be with your experience without letting it run the show.
Hold your experience as you would hold a small, scared child.
Stay connected with yourself, stay connected with each other.
Transformation can be really intense.
The irrational thoughts can ramp up and become more extreme. The ideas can take on a life of their own…
Thoughts like, “I can’t do this. I’m not going to be ok. We’re not going to make it through.”
Notice the thoughts and stay with the sensations in your body.
Notice how the thoughts emerge like rocket-ships, and it’s up to you whether you latch onto them or let go of them.
Practice letting go, and watch as they disappear or burst into fireworks.
They are ideas. Some of them might be accurate, some of them might not be. But no matter their degree of accuracy, your ideas are not YOU.
YOU are much bigger, much more powerful than any of those ideas.
And when you stay connected to whom you really are, to what really matters, to whom or what you care about, you will be energized by the increased energy flowing through you in this time of transformation, instead of debilitated by it. And then you can use that energy to create more of what the world needs right now. You’ll be more empowered.
Yes, the storm is intense right now, and it may increase in its intensity for a while, but it is still a storm, doing what storms do; and storms never last forever.
We will get through this, and we will do it together.
I love you.
Keep it open.
Let me know if I can help.
You can think of a practice as any action you consistently take.
For example, brushing your teeth, showering, (I know I’m making assumptions for some of you here😉), eating, communicating, driving the car, exercising, working/creating, meditating, walking, sleeping.
🌟Basically, everything you do can become a practice, if you choose to look at it that way.🌟
Do you normally think of every personal interaction as a practice? What about your interactions with your significant other? Could that be a practice?
Do you think of living your life and all the actions you take in it itself as *skills* that you can practice and get better at?
I’m talking about how you make your morning (bulletproof) coffee/tea, the way you walk to your car from your house, the way you enter your office, what you choose to put your focus on during the drive *to* your office, etc.
I recommend adopting this viewpoint, that every action you take is a practice, one of YOUR practices, because implied with the word “practice” is the idea that we’re improving our action over time, in terms of effectiveness and efficiency.
***quickly rubs hands together with enthusiastic anticipation***
Does anyone else get as excited as I do about effectiveness and efficiency?
Someone might say, “Effectiveness and efficiency, Aaron, blah blah blah…”
⚡️But not so fast!
The more we practice something, with consciousness, the more likely we are to tilt toward mastery of that practice. And there is a deep fulfillment available to us in Mastery.
💲Masters of their craft not only tend to make more money (they are in high demand), they also experience more happiness and fulfillment in their lives.
Research has shown that the most critical factor in determining one’s mastery of a skill is not innate talent, but the person’s decision that they will practice their given craft for the rest of their lives.
So, will YOU be practicing these different “crafts” for the rest of your life?
🌠Of course you will!
And there’s something about taking this long-term “Practice of Mastery” perspective on our current circumstances that also helps us experience more patience, and to shift some of our energy from attachment to the desired outcome toward enjoyment of the process itself.
🎲Then, since we are more deeply engaged with the practices themselves, this leads to more enjoyment of life right now, instead of gambling on potential happiness in the future.
Have an awesome day.
I’ve gone through many long periods in my life when I’ve cried almost every day.
The faster I’m growing and making changes in my life, taking risks, putting myself into uncomfortable situations in the pursuit of expanding my comfort zone, the more I cry.
The more somatic meditation I do, the more I cry.
The more embodiment and healing work I do, the more I cry.
Crying is associated with growth, healing, and letting go of pain.
Vulnerability is necessary for true leadership.
It takes more courage to be with the pain than to try to run away from it.
And trying to run away can only ever work temporarily anyway.
What’s good about turning toward our pain, is that it gives us a chance to be with life as it really is, as opposed to sustaining our neuroticism, our ego-projects, trying to freeze everything in place, trying to control ourselves and everyone around us.
When we turn towards our pain, we remember that it was for us the whole time.
It is the fuel that empowers us with purpose and clarity, when we turn toward it, as a practice.
And we begin to discover more life with less effort required for the living.
We discover a life that is surrendered to something even greater than our own attempts to build and protect who we think we are.
We are so much more, so much more beautiful than any idea we could come up with.
And when we practice being with life as it really is, through embodied, somatic practices, we experience more of the beauty, ease and infinite grace of life.
Crazy, I know.
Counter-intuitive…. or, at least, counter-conditioning.
It turns out that the poison is the cure.
The pain is the medicine which, when we turn towards it, transforms us into more of whom we are really meant to be:
Infinitely, more fully ALIVE.
Did you know you can turn your pain into power in about half an hour?
Ok, maybe not ALL of it, but definitely SOME of it.
And wouldn’t it be nice to let some steam out of that pressure cooker, if you know what I mean?
We’re all holding tension in our bodies, in one way or another *unless you’re already immortal, and if you are, then come talk to me now*
The problem is, we think we can lose.
We think we’re in this game of winning and losing, and sure, from one perspective, it looks that way.
But what happens when you just surrender?
What happens if you stop the effort and just…. tell it like it is. Say what you really think. Do what you really want to do….
Sure, maybe the whole world is not ready for that yet.
If you’re going to start a fire, maybe you should use a fire-pit, instead of lighting up in the middle of a Colorado pine forest.
What I do with my clients is sort of like that fire-pit.
I give them a place to experiment with letting go a little bit.
They get to admit how they really feel.
About their dreams.
About their perceived failures and shortcomings.
And about what they really, really, *really* want in their lives, and how they feel about receiving that.
We get real, so that you can stop putting forth so much effort, and relax more into the person you are underneath all that tiresome trying.
I’m a big fan of trying, don’t get me wrong. I think trying often gets a bad rap.
If you don’t try something, you won’t know…
But I’m talking about surrendering to the truth and power inside of you. The fuel that’s waiting for you.
Allow me to help you remember more of your unlimited, unstoppable, unkillable power.