Fear Is Not Your Block!

Fear Is Not Your Block!

Most people who are into self-development believe that their biggest challenge or their biggest “sticking point” on their way to success is fear.

It’s actually not the fear itself. It’s one’s resistance to fear that is the true blockage.

So in order to work with your resistance to fear, or your resistance to any emotion or feeling you’re having for that matter, what is required is to practice being present with the emotion or feeling, and to practice giving up the resistance it.

Just put your attention there. Explore its nature with your awareness. Set the intention to let go of the resistance and to feel the experience.

Rest your awareness right in the depths of the experience.

This is the practice.

Letting go is usually not something that occurs by simply deciding you’d like to let go.

When “holding on” is a subconscious process–which is what trauma is–the letting go must occur deep enough to penetrate the attachment.

It’s important to give the process of letting go, of forgiving, as much time as it needs. Trying to force it is counterproductive.

Just as there is a natural process to a baby growing up, a process which takes time, the best we can do is to nurture ourselves through the process of letting go.

The good news is that there are powerful practices that can catalyze the process–different styles of qigong and meditation, for example. I like to think of these types of practices as the nutrients needed for the process. And then we do what we can and the rest is up to the Divine.

Most of us are deeply conditioned to try to avoid our pain, to attempt to resist it, which only amplifies it and makes it worse in the long-run.

The answer is to turn toward our pain with presence and patience, and to practice in the ways of those who have the results you are looking for.

This is how to turn pain into power.

Love,

Aaron

Crying Makes You Stronger

Crying Makes You Stronger

I’ve gone through many long periods in my life when I’ve cried almost every day.

The faster I’m growing and making changes in my life, taking risks, putting myself into uncomfortable situations in the pursuit of expanding my comfort zone, the more I cry.

The more somatic meditation I do, the more I cry.

The more embodiment and healing work I do, the more I cry.

Crying is associated with growth, healing, and letting go of pain.

Vulnerability is necessary for true leadership.

It takes more courage to be with the pain than to try to run away from it.

And trying to run away can only ever work temporarily anyway.

What’s good about turning toward our pain, is that it gives us a chance to be with life as it really is, as opposed to sustaining our neuroticism, our ego-projects, trying to freeze everything in place, trying to control ourselves and everyone around us.

When we turn towards our pain, we remember that it was for us the whole time.

It is the fuel that empowers us with purpose and clarity, when we turn toward it, as a practice.

And we begin to discover more life with less effort required for the living.

We discover a life that is surrendered to something even greater than our own attempts to build and protect who we think we are.

We are so much more, so much more beautiful than any idea we could come up with.

And when we practice being with life as it really is, through embodied, somatic practices, we experience more of the beauty, ease and infinite grace of life.

Crazy, I know.

Counter-intuitive…. or, at least, counter-conditioning.

It turns out that the poison is the cure.

The pain is the medicine which, when we turn towards it, transforms us into more of whom we are really meant to be:

Infinitely, more fully ALIVE.